Are You Ready to Commit? Really, Really?

When a gay guy starts a relationship, he must be ready. I mean ready in its literal meaning, “in a suitable state for an activity, action, or situation; fully prepared; eager, inclined, or willing to do something.” Be mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, all those "ally's" ready. You must be ready to share every single thing to your partner, from your ice cream to clothings, to your stash of free porn to your precious hard bound books- everything!

We all know how 'out there' we all could be.  How we could become easy. How amazingly inappropriate our lifestyle can be.

Are you willing to leave it ALL? ARE. YOU. READY. TO. BE. TIED?

There are two key ingredients: First of all, you must be willing to make the announcement. Shout the announcement. Become obvious. Second, you must whole heartedly make certain sacrifices.

Your pink relationship will be viewed by most people using the commonly used model known to mankind: the heterosexual relationship; male plus female; masculine and feminine.  People would ask, “So, who’s the ‘girl’ in your relationship?” Others would expect a feminine entity. The softie, the one who portrays the wife, the person who serves the husband, does the cooking, keeps the house clean,  basically, the one wearing the skirt. This is very ancient. But it's just the way it is. We try and try and TRY to make them understand, but how can you bend an ancient stigma? So might as well, try to flow tih it.

The Old Testament of The Bible has two commandments for relationships. "Thou shalt not commit adultery" and "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife". There is a huge problem in using these rules as the basis for a gay relationship, so why not make thy own scheme?

For one thing, the straight (hetero) pattern seems so negative because it's all about what one can not and must not do. The rainbow scheme shown in here is more laid back, interesting, and positive. Still using the Old Testament language, I have come up with the following criteria so as to have a much better way of building a relationship:

1)  Thou shalt love thy boyfriend.
2)  Thy relationship with thy boyfriend shalt take priority over all other friendships.
3)  Thou shalt strive to be thy boyfriend's best friend.
4)  Thou shalt support thy boyfriend through times of hardship.
5)  Thou shalt take care of thy boyfriend when he is ill.
6)  Thou shalt commune with all honesty.
7)  Thy monetaries must be fully shared.
8)  Thou shalt be productive FOR thy boyfriend.
9)  Thy boyfriend shalt be the only man lying down thy bed.
10) Thou shalt be genuinely loyal.

These commandments may not be complete yet, but building gay relationships around love, companionship and mutual support seems to be the suitable way forward. After all, gay relationships are for commitments. The old heterosexual scheme might be good for raising children, especially in ancient times which were less civilized than our societies today, but relationships between two gay men are fundamentally different.

Often, when young guys are contemplating about going into a relationship, they focus on whether they're ready for monogamy. But as discussed above, the thought of "Am I ready to give up shagging around so that I can be this guy's boyfriend?" is quite a negative way to start a relationship. That is in fact a symptom that they are not ready. The idea is that if one loves someone enough then one will be prepared to deny one’s self something that one enjoys. Focus directly on the love instead. Start by thinking "Am I really ready to love and care for this guy?" along the lines of the relationship criteria listed above. "Would I be prepared to help him if he has a bad accident and breaks both his legs, or if he loses his job and becomes depressed?"

So, one last time. Are you ready to become THE boyfriend?